Privately Inspired People

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Twice a month, for the last eight months, I’ve been preparing an agenda and leading thought-provoking discussions with Privately Inspired People. This is an invitation-only group that we created to provide an environment full of ideas, encouragement, and support to help one another take inspired action to live our one wild and precious life to its fullest, because…

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

Proverbs 27:17 

Becoming Imperturbable

The focus of our meeting on Thursday, July 13, 2023, is living life with imperturbable composure. Becoming imperturbable makes you incapable of being upset or agitated; fully embracing life as it is while remaining peaceful and calm no matter the circumstances.

Becoming imperturbable is a personal choice that is completely within your control. No one or nothing outside of you can force you to become perturbed. It’s entirely up to you.

We’ll spend our time together discussing three aspects of Becoming Imperturbable.

1. Want to/Have to Ratio
2. Expectation/Gratitude Ratio
3. The ‘Better Than It Would Otherwise Have Been’ Standard

1️⃣ Have to/Want to Ratio. This Ratio refers to the push and pull between spending time doing activities you have to do versus pursuing those you want to do. If all of your capacity is consumed by things you have to do, there is nothing left for what you want to do. However, as you begin shifting more and more of your capacity to do the things you want to do, you begin living life more and more in alignment with your purpose. Yes, this takes time, but just making the decision to begin a practice of flipping your Have to/Want to Ratio strengthens your imperturbability. This, too, is a personal choice that is within your complete control. You don’t need permission from anyone or anything. The choice is yours. #PursueYourPurpose #Imperturbable

2️⃣ Expectation/Gratitude Ratio. This Ratio refers to the daily focus you place on what you believe should happen or what you may lack versus appreciating and acknowledging the blessings, opportunities, and positive aspects of your life. A constant focus on expectation brings about discontent and frustration. However, a daily focus on gratitude brings calm and peace to your life, fostering a sense of abundance rather than constantly chasing unfulfilled desires. The decision to begin a practice of flipping our Expectation/Gratitude Ratio also strengthens your imperturbability. And again, it’s a personal choice that’s completely within your control. You don’t need permission to begin it. It’s your choice to make. #Gratitude #AppreciateWhatYouHave

3️⃣ The ‘Better Than It Would Otherwise Have Been’ Standard.
This Standard speaks to the human tendency to fall short of achieving your goals and aspirations while also acknowledging the profound impact of each and every effort you make toward self-improvement. By continuously striving to grow, learn, and develop, you enhance your life in ways that surpass what would have been possible had you not taken those steps. Using this Standard helps you accept when you fall short of specific desired outcomes with the knowledge that every effort of personal growth and improvement leads to a life that is richer, more meaningful, and ultimately better than it would otherwise have been. This Standard encourages you to embrace every small, incremental improvement you make over time and appreciate the cumulative results of transformation that contribute to a more fulfilling and rewarding life. #Resilience #Kaizen #SelfImprovement #Transformation

In preparation for our meetings, I generally recommend that each member ponders over a quote or two and does a little bit of light homework (reading a blog post or two and sometimes viewing a video, too). This is the prep work for our July 13, 2023 meeting. 🌈✨ 

PONDERABLES

“The days I keep my gratitude higher than my expectations, I have really good days.”

Ray Wylie Hubbard

“Once you get where you want to be, you’re not there anymore.”

Author Unknown

HOMEWORK

Reading:

1. 10 strategies for becoming as undisturbed as a stoic can be,
2. An Annual Theme Can Be a Powerful Thing

JOIN OUR GROUP

If you are interested in getting support from a group of Privately Inspired People that you can count on to encourage you and help you along this journey to your best life, please email me directly at [email protected] or write to me in the comment section below.

With love,